No matter how close you might be with your bridesmaids, there are some things that they just won’t dare tell you to your face. Here are some common secrets that are often kept hush-hush and what to do about them.
There are some things your bridesmaids just won’t say to your face. It doesn’t matter if your maid of honor was your partner in crime during college or if one of the girls was your BFF in high school—when it comes to hurting feelings, no one wants to be the one to do it. This is especially the case when it’s the bride’s feelings and it’s her big day.
Still, just like your girlfriends sometimes have to tell you what you don’t want to hear, your bridesmaids are tempted to tell you exactly what they think, only they won’t for the sake of the princess bride’s fragile nerves and ego.
Here and some common secrets bridesmaids keep to themselves and what to do about them:
They hate their dress—It’s not always the case, especially with the countless chic dress options out there today, but many times, the old joke rings true. No, the girls won’t always be able to wear the dress again, and they probably don’t want to. Don’t let it hurt your feelings and don’t let it alter the dress you choose, but it doesn’t hurt to be considerate in the style department.
They can’t afford the bridal party expenses—Some couples are able to pay for things like makeup and hair, and some can even pay for the bridal party’s attire. However, if you are not one of them, be aware that some of your bridesmaids may not be able to afford some of the expenses that come along with donning the title.
They don’t want to be set up with a groomsman—Okay, so some of your bridesmaids might want you to play matchmaker. Ninety percent of the time, though, it’s really not the case. Don’t be too pushy and don’t try to set them up unless they’re interested in someone!
They can’t stand your mother—Or your brother, your father-in-law, or maybe even the groom. Some of your bridesmaids will have to spend a significant amount of time with your family members or friends, from the rehearsal dinner and the actual wedding rehearsal to your dress fittings and luncheons. And they won’t always get along. Try to keep the talk light, the surroundings relaxing, and know when to separate people to avoid any unnecessary drama. Your bridesmaids won’t say this to your face, but they’ll appreciate your effort to keep things peaceful and stress free.